Obstacles and Cockblocks

(class is in session)

Recently, and very recently because this blog is like 2 days old, I intercepted another person commenting on my blog posts in a rather suggestively negative way. Maybe you've guys seen him, he's under the alias "Dimoko." I figured that this would be a great time to talk about "cockblocks."

PUA's call them "obstacles" for a vaguer term. "Cockblocks" is a more universal term that's more used in a larger mass of general people. There are different types of obstacles. There's the:

Mother Hen: The pretentious and almost always very loud girl buddy of the girl you're talking to that wants to pull her friend away from you. Why is she pulling her away from you? Well contrary to popular belief, it's not that she doesn't like you, in fact she probably hasn't heard a word you said, she is simply pulling her away from you, because she is worried about the overall "slutty nature" that her group might be perceived as. (Credit to Brad P.)

Sharks: Not a PUA term, Sharks, are guys who circle around the set you are in looking for a way to steal your set after you've gotten her warmed up and her social juices flowing. Sort of like those people who hang around slot machines waiting for someone to give up so that they could capitalize on the jackpot that they might've won. (fyi: if you know anything about slot machines, that's not how they work.)

Amogs: The acronym A.M.O.G. stands for Alpha Male of Group. This is usually the guy who's the main focus of the group he is in. He intends to talk your character down as to make you "beta" to his alpha. Doing so, keeps you from building rapport with the girls in his group.


How do you diffuse a cockblock or obstacle? Well let's use Dimoko's comment for example:

Dimoko: Wow, i never thought someone could out-douche the writer of this blog...but Trig here is giving it a shot. It's a douche-off everybody.

- He's used the proper template for Amoging. He playfully went to dent another one's intentions by suggesting a negative yet playful tone.

TBFT (textbookfairytale): Sweet! I've got my own blog promoter. Woot!

- You acknowledge the obstacle and move on, or back to you're target (girl you were talking to.) You don't want to spend too much time on the obstacle, you simply want to brush him off. If you were at a bar and not on an online situation as this one is, what you don't want to do is fully face the obstacle because that's going to attract more attention to him, which is what he or she most likely wants. If the obstacle isn't violent, sometimes a physical brush off is needed. This is where you lightly place your hand near his shoulder or arm and push him lightly away. Again, only when nonviolent. Never ever lash out.

- A famous technique made popular by Matador, is the "Cool man" technique. The "Cool man," technique is used for Amogs, that continuously tries to pry you away from your conversation. Every time that happens, simply reply with "Cool Man," and just continue on to your conversation. The repetivity of you saying "cool man," and his continous tries to pry into your conversation works to destroy is social rapport in the group or even branches out of the group showing people that he's somewhat desperate.

TBFT: Hey just so you guys know Trig was my nickname I was more popularly known as.

This is actually called rethreading. It's basically moving onto another subject. You need to rethread or move to another subject as to imply that you're done talking about the obstacle and that he's really not that important. Unless he's an absolute idiot he's not going to stand in the back and wave his arms around trying to get your attention.

That's it, you should be fine by then.